Do not question my parenthood credentials if I talk about plight of parents, families & future of our nation. I have observed many kids grow, influence of surroundings on their growth and parents' reactions towards situations that arise while discharging their duties. This Sunday while I was part of a discussion on "Let Kids be Kids" here in Chicago, little had I known that some event in my family would pull me to writing.
I truly believe that I am privileged in sharing unbiased opinions as I am attached to young ones without having to go through what their parents do. Many of us would agree that parenthood has 'evolved' which may have its own side-effects. There is nothing wrong in modern day parents assuming that they are doing more than what their childhood received. City based parents are actually playing more roles than working parents of past. I am saying this for a simple reason that parents' love and care can not be measured by tools innovated so far. In part 1 of this series I will keep the discussion limited to schooling in Indian Metropolitan cities.
Yes, things have changed much rapidly than consumers of child-care industry would have imagined. If you are not prepared for changes imposed upon your behavior by crooked experimenters in the name of education, your identity will reduce to a Cavia cobaya. You may find it surprising to learn that most if not whole of the Indian population were industrialists until less than a century ago (turnover, product and production varied). If you ask an elderly person from any Indian district, they would not recall even 200 people doing mainstream jobs from their time. Jobs were created exponentially when most of us stopped being innovative and started escaping from industries established by our forefathers. While our elders used to devise tens of new varities of paddy every decade, potters used to carve new designs every year and artisans used to produce masterpieces, village foundries produced better metals for use ; we are not able to achieve even half of it with so many research institutions around us. Major opportunities in job market for last 2 decades came to urban areas for clerical jobs with computer & English knowledge, also known as services industry.I will talk about parents from this background, Positive and negative aspects of centralized job opportunities can be topic of another discussion.
Three things to note before I start - First, my mother has been working as government school teacher and she is one of my sources to apprise me that only those who are least bothered about education send their kids to government schools and only motivation for them is free meals, 'scholarship' and funds distributed under various schemes(loot of the funds is a separate issue). Second, My brother & I have had very limited schooling due to various reasons. Third, I acknowledge the importance of schooling in nurturing social behavior of children, at the same time I strongly feel that Kids should not be constantly assessed from adults' attitude.
Our family was not very happy sending my 4-month old nephew to crèche, however we hardly had options. In another world when I see expecting mothers being returned from daycare pre-booked for yet to arrive babies, it doesn't make me feel any better. Consolation for us was that it was in same premise as my sister-in-law's workplace and maintained high standard of hygene. Around same time I was part of contingent to USA which also had 3 mothers from my office leaving their little ones behind. One of them was visibly upset as she was made to skip her brother's(renowned hockey player) engagement and 2 daughters behind. She told me how much she hates working in this industry but had no choice given the expensive school fee structure. While many privately run good schools in non IT job providing cities offer services at reasonable cost, none of the schools in cities with more 'opportunities' provide it for anything less than 20X cost. If that was not all, their marketing team does a psychological analysis of parents on ways to milk more money by playing emotional chord.
A fortnight ago my nephew turned 5 and hunt for school has started. I have seen him in nursery and always wanted to see him grow everyday probably because I wanted to groom my would be best friend per my choice. Work and travel would restrict my wishes to video calls and occasional real pampering. Lord, he is exceptional. No...No...No, not because he is dear to me. Partly because he mimics his teachers, he draws on walls and alibis like kids of his age should do, he is particular about his toys, multilingual, naughty and sharp. Our priority in selecting the school was proximity from residence and we found a couple in 3 mile radius. The only school his parents visited today has annual charges close to 200,000 and we were prepared for that. Assessment of child(which I personally dislike) included writing numbers from 1 to 20. My nephew did not stop at 20 and continued further. While the teacher was busy selling her services to his parents, my nephew found it only appropriate to play in designated area. Teacher assessed him to be hyperactive and advised the parents that child requires special attention which essentially means paying additional 100,000/- per year. In return a teacher would spend 30 minutes in morning and during lunch with the child while his friends would play. Fortunately a friend of my brother happened to be
a teacher there and she informed that each staff has a target to sell 'special attention' service. Parents easily get trapped as Fear is a fantastic marketing tool.
I firmly believe that individuals can not run away from their social responsibilities by blaming the government for every problem. However, last month when I got a chance to ask questions to general secretary of largest political party ruling most of the states I tried to draw his attention to menace of mass migration which leads to a new danger of class divide in various parts of India. My question for creating business friendly atmosphere in highly populous states of Bihar & UP to stop mass migration and control inflation (I am fully aware of the feel-good government data, but it doesn't consider many aspects) was answered with MUDRA finance scheme. I have a simple submission that these schemes can support growth only when have basics corrected.
As a common citizen of India, we only ask for law & order improvement, basic amenities like hygene, education, elctricity, good roads, internet connection. We the forced migrants from our respective states have enough ideas to implement, earn our livelihood, save 100% on the home loan EMIs & 80% on the school fees described above.... & three generations will get a chance to live together. It will also help reduce unnecessary burden on resources of established big cities and everyone will boast of regional pride rather than looking down upon people from certain states.
Correct the basics Mr. General secretary sir, and then I will avail MUDRA to start a school for children like my nephew who reject the barrier based education.
Hoping to see a better future.